Family Meals Focus
The Ellyn Satter Institute Newsletter
by Ellyn Satter, Registered Dietitian and Family Therapist
Whatever your size, work with your body rather than against it. Eat well and joyfully, and trust your internal regulators to guide you in what and how much to eat. Move your body in ways that you enjoy and can sustain. Then let your body weigh what it will in response to your positive and consistent eating and activity. Develop loyalty and respect for your body, and stop postponing living until you get thin.
How the Satter Eating Competence Model (ecSatter) addresses weight
In Session 3 of the Satter Eating Competence Model course, “Working with poor food acceptance and poor food regulation,” Clio is back for another roleplay. In my previous intervention, I blessed the food, was firm about structure, and encouraged her to find her own successes. She says meals are going great. However, “I have talked with you a number of times, and you have never said anything about my weight.” I told her I hadn’t said anything because I didn’t think it was an issue. But is it? “Well, not for me. I come from a long line of larger women, and I am okay with myself. But you see it everywhere, and when I go to the doctor they make comments. And they talk abut my kids. I am worried that because I am heavy my kids are going to be, too.”
Genetics lets people get fat; it doesn’t make them fat
“There is no doubt that if fatness runs in your family it is likely to be easier for your children to get fat. It doesn’t make them fat. The thing to concern yourself with is not doing anything that is going to promote their getting fatter.” Food security is the bottom line for Clio’s children with respect to helping them regulate their food intake and grow in a way that is appropriate for them. Giving them regular meals and snacks, and not trying to restrict their food intake, reassures them that they will be fed.
Stable weight is healthy weight
Clio says her weight as an adult has been stable. She gained some weight with her pregnancies, but since then her weight has stayed about the same. It went down a bit when she started having meals, but then it leveled off. I told her that trying to get her weight down could end up making her weight go up. Striving for weight loss would likely make her food-preoccupied and prone to overeat. If she is a typical dieter, she would have stepwise weight gain. losing and each time regaining to a higher level. She is a good regulator, and it isn’t wise to interfere with that: Her weight was stable when her eating pattern was grab-and-go, and it is stable with structure. Interfering with her body’s regulatory system could permanently disrupt the balance.
People who are eating competent do better with weight
Despite fears that such giddy self-indulgence will lead to health and nutritional disaster, people with high eating competence do better.1 Low-income women who strive for weight loss have lower eating competence.2 Weight-reduction dieting puts food selection and regulation in the head rather than in the body where it belongs. Rather than trusting internal cues of hunger, appetite, and satiety, dieting demands systematically ignoring and overruling those cues. Cycling on and off diets undermines family meals. Food acceptance suffers as well. Being in a constant state of deprivation gives every food such heightened importance that it is difficult to take chances by eating something unfamiliar or just ho-hum.
For more help with becoming eating competent, see Ellyn Satter’s Secrets of Feeding a Healthy Family.
- Lohse, B., et al., Measuring Eating Competence: psychometric properties and validity of the ecSatter Inventory. J Nutr Educ Behav, 2007. 39 (suppl): p. S154-S166.
- Krall, J.S. and B. Lohse, Interviews with low-income Pennsylvanians verify a need to enhance eating competence. J Am Diet Assoc, 2009. 109: p. 468-473.